Wow we’re already half way through the It’s Never Too Late series!?! I have enjoyed sharing this series with you guys so much. The feedback has been fantastic and I’m thrilled that you guys are loving it too. I’m so happy that y’all are finding it helpful and using the tips I’m sharing to create your best life! If you’re new to the series, check out the previous weeks’ posts here.

Its Never Too Late Week 4

It’s Never Too Late For Forgiveness

for-give-ness (noun)
The action or process of forgiving or being forgiven.

That is the most basic definition, but I like this one much better: Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.

I think many of us resist forgiving those who  have wronged us is because we think that this allows to offender(s) to be free from the responsibility of their hurtful actions. We think that if we forgive we have to be nice to the offender or put ourselves back into a negative situation and all of that couldn’t be any further from the truth! Forgiveness does not equate to reconciliation.
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I have lived by several different mottoes pretty much my entire adult life and they have served me well, so I’m sharing one of them with you today in hopes that it will serve you well too. Never let someone have control, an emotional strong-hold on you. When they have moved on with their life and you’re stuck harboring resentment, hate, fear, etc. you’re stagnant. You’re not moving forward, you’re not growing, you’re not living. You’re simply existing.

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Forgiving someone is not about them, it’s about you. It’s about you taking your power back. It’s about you taking your control back. It’s about freeing yourself from the past, which allows you to move forward into the future. It’s about letting go and letting God take care of the situation. We can be resistant to forgiveness because we think we will lose our perceived power, which is actually the opposite. You will feel so empowered and strong,and free if you can forgive the one(s) that hurt you. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. Nor does it mean that you will allow the offense to happen again. Forgiveness starts with a mental decision and emotionally being able to let go of the resentment.

Just Let That Sh*t Go!

I also want to quickly touch on the topic of saying I’m sorry if you know you’ve wronged someone. Saying your sorry will be freeing and healing for you and the person on the receiving end. Those two little words, can be hard to say, but they have such a huge impact. Take responsibility for your actions and step up. Say I’m sorry and mean it.

In a world full of so much hate, spread love, light, and happiness.Life is too short to harbor so much resentment and hate in your heart. Do you think you have it in your heart to forgive?

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25 Comments on It’s Never Too Late – Week 4

  1. I live by these mottoes too! Life would have been so much easier if I had learned to forgive others, but I’m glad I learned it none the less. Life is too short to spend it angry or hurt!

  2. People don’t always have a ton of time so its great to have a gentle reminder to take care of ourselves. That includes forgiveness and being able to move on. Great opinions.

  3. Thank you for writing about forgiveness. I think it is so important to be able to let things go so that we don’t remain weighed down by someone else’s shenanigans.

  4. This is a lovely post! Everybody has their own circumtances, and everybody has their own way to forgive. The most important thing is, how we find peace within ourselves, that’s my opinion.

  5. I’m a forgiver but not a forgetter. Try as I might I cannot trust someone once they’ve lost that trust. I don’t harbor any hatred or ill-feelings, but I don’t open to them like I would other people. Not sure that I would want to.

  6. There is only one person in my life that I will never be able to forgive but that’s because of what they did to my oldest child. Otherwise I do believe in forgiveness.

  7. Forgiving is such a difficult thing to do but it can be SO freeing!!! We are called to be forgiving and even to forget, but to still learn about ourselves and make sure that we grow from the experience!

  8. You are so right about forgiveness not requiring a reconciliation. I’m going through something myself and I’m still struggling to let it go because I know these people are currently sitting at home complaining about me and thinking I’m the problem. But once I finally forgive them for their ignorance, I won’t be doing it to their faces and I don’t plan on remaining friends with them. Their wrongs were too hurtful and really proved to me what kinds of “friends” they are. (The not-so-good kind.) It stinks that they have a 2 year old involved (I love that kid) but I can’t just be involved in his life and not his parents. 🙁
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  9. Forgiveness can be a hdd one. I am not even sure where I stand on it with my ex for having an affair. I’ve moved on for myslef. But I am not sure that getting beyond the hurt is truly forgiveness.

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